We get a lot of “Dear Divas” questions from our readers asking us how to get their hubby on board and involved in planning and helping with dates. So we decided to give you all some diva advice when it comes to getting help with date nights!
Let’s face it, men are not planners when it comes to this kind of stuff. Well, the majority aren’t….
Get your BFF’s hubby on board to help your man plan a double date! If there are 2 husbands planning the date, that’s 2 brains which equals less work and double the fun! Make a HUGE deal out of how much you love his efforts!! Also, tell all your friends and family about it… and make sure he hears you tell them about all the fun you had! (No sarcasm allowed) Honey and sugar will attract the bee. You have a lot of womanly charm that will wrap your man right around your finger. Pour it on and USE IT. Be sweet to him, love on him, and make your request simple yet direct. Make sure he knows how you look forward to everything that he ever plans for the two of you to do. Make a schedule for the two of you. Ask him to plan something once a quarter (start easy….Valentine’s Day or your Anniversary). Then bump it to once a month and hopefully you can work up to every other week with him in a few months – but don’t be discouraged if it takes longer. Do trade work… hehe… If he plans a date, you will give him a massage after. Ooohhh, La La!! Or after the date, you will heat things up at home. 🙂 Have a heart to heart talk with your man. Talk about 3 things you both would like to change. Tell him how important it is to you that he help plan your date night. Then create a plan together AND once again, help him with his end!! You may have to help him accomplish those date nights at first {i.e. arrange for a babysitter, suggest ideas…} but eventually he should be able to do it all by himself.
We all wish you the best of luck! If one thing doesn’t work, move to the next. But don’t give up and always remember how great your man is in everything he does!! If you’re really seriously about making date night a priority in your marriage. Stop what you’re doing right now and GO CHECK OUT OUR DATE NIGHT GUIDE!
After receiving SO many emails and messages from readers asking for help in this area, we finally decided to make a comprehensive guide JUST for you! {Because you KNOW we LOVE you guys, right?!} The “How to Date Your Spouse Guide” seriously includes EVERYTHING you need to get your spouse on board and make date night happen, including:
Date Night Basics Info – Discover the benefits and get some motivation for date night! Date Night Questionnaire – Get on the same page with your “date” expectations. Date Night Idea Surveys – Figuring out what to do is half the battle! Date Night Planning Guide– – This planner will help you prepare 2 weeks in advance and get everything ready for date night! Date Night Coupon IOUs – A little reward never hurt! Give your spouse a love coupon in exchange for them planning a great date night! Date Night Gift Tags – Cute tags to attach to a date night gift!
If you use the guide, please let us know how it goes! Do you have a fabulous suggestion we missed above?? Please share it with us and all of our other great readers!! We love your input too!!
